My sister very explicitly requested delayed umbilical cord cut with the doctor but she didn't want to wait when it came down to it.
Yeah that's a huge concern: Normally it's easy for me to be assertive to the point of being adversarial with doctors, but in this case, I honestly don't know how the emotional drain will affect that.
I was thinking about trying to find a doula to play interference with the docs/nurses, but the hospital are wishy-washy as to if they'll allow more than 1 other person in the room (covid bullshit)
It's not the cutting that needs to be delayed, it's the clamping to then cut. They need to wait so ask them what their policy about umbilical clamping is. Many places, even in the US have a policy to wait and according to some research, places with that policy in place delay the clamping long enough.
Thank you for the clarification
Here are some links from a pol thread from a little while ago about cord clamping:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24215582/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29689745/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6259583/ https://www.jpeds.com/article/S0022-3476(18)31079-5/fulltext https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32702760/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5290307/
If you have to get a mid-wife or doula only to prevent the nurse from clamping early, it might just be the best investment you'll ever make.
I dont have time to read all of those articles. Can you please give me a quick explanation on what the deal is with umbilical cutting/clamping etc.?
Quick, sure; lots of great things need time to your kid through the umbilical cord. So wait at least 3+ minutes and it will change color, become pale white. It helps against jaundice, increase iron, health brain development, etc. Even at 1 year old, you can know which kid has had their umbilical cord clamp quickly or not big looking at brain development.
Placenta and the stem cells are worth a ton of cash for the hospitals. So some hospitals try to keep all that goodness to resell instead of giving it to your kid.
Fuck their corona shit. You tell them "I will be there with my wife" and walk past them if they say no.
Stop listening to rules that make zero sense and start telling them what will be happening.
No, not for me, I will be there no matter what, I mean, they may not allow a doula. I can't force a doula to go into a hospital.
Tell them also to fuck off with their rules and that said doula WILL be allowed in the room, corona fuckery or no.
You and she will be exhausted when the meds come, they often wont even ask when they start to do things. You need to consider how big a priority this is for you as you will be in a very comprised condition . May want to consider the state you live in if refusing in a hospital setting some could put the law on you if you give them any reason too
they often wont even ask when they start to do things.
Yeah, I have a concern as to not getting kicked out of the hospital for assaulting some fucking nurse for exactly this. I really don't know how I'm going to be able to control my temper. My fear is that the birth plan will be ignored and I'll have to not choke out nurses and pretend not to hate them.
As an aside, fuck nurses generally- I think they have an average IQ of 93.
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