You can't be both. You don't get the dichotomy of the two if you think you can.
Parents who are cold and distant because they're trying to maintain authority can just as easily lose a kid'
That isn't the way to be a parent... Why are you pretending it is? That's not even remotely the lines he's going for.
>That isn't the way to be a parent... Why are you pretending it is? That's not even remotely the lines he's going for.
That is exactly what you're going for if you think these are different roles. Would you let your friends go down these self-destructive paths? To the extent that you would, they are not your friends. You have more authority over your child, but eventually they become an adult, and your authority over them drops much lower. If you treat your adult son/daughter like they're still a toddler that you can say, "do what I say because I'm the parent", they'll rightly tell you to fuck off.
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