I've never played that game of "respecting the dead." Screw that, dying isn't special, billions of people have died and all of us are going to die. So dying doesn't make a person a hero or a better person anymore than taking a shit does. If a person was an asshole or a POS in life I'll call it like it is when that person is dead too. Dying doesn't change anything we have done in life. It simply means we can't repair the damage we have caused. Therefore, we should be remembered for how we were in life. If you don't want people talking about what an asshole you were, now is the time to fix it. Dying doesn't fix it, it makes it permanent.
I've never played that game of "respecting the dead." Screw that, dying isn't special, billions of people have died and all of us are going to die. So dying doesn't make a person a hero or a better person anymore than taking a shit does. If a person was an asshole or a POS in life I'll call it like it is when that person is dead too. Dying doesn't change anything we have done in life. It simply means we can't repair the damage we have caused. Therefore, we should be remembered for how we were in life. If you don't want people talking about what an asshole you were, now is the time to fix it. Dying doesn't fix it, it makes it permanent.