You dont have to make the moral argument, there is a logical clear logical one. Youre trying to make reality subjective. You can slap on a dress and say gender is a construct, when you tie your entire identity around your sexual kinks, and a delusion your biology. Youre naturally going to be fucked up when your getting gagged by a dick and your brain recognizes it for what it is. It reminds me of that old sheryl crow song "If it makes you happy, Then why the hell are you so sad?