Reminder: how you react can cause trauma for your kids during these scenarios. Put on a pretty face, act, be as normal as possible, handle business out of view of the kid/kids. The more traumatic you make it, the more severe you make it seem, the worse the psychological damage to the kid. The #1 priority should be the mental health of your kid and preventing as much long term damage as possible. This includes rape victims who are adults, too. If your kid sees how angry you got, how much trouble everyone got into, they will self-blame. It definitely causes trauma. This is not ADDITIONAL stress your kids needs during that moment in their life. Don't talk about it all the time, don't ask them questions over and over, trying to dig up dirty details so you know what all happened. Keep it simple and very lightly detailed and have as few conversations about this as possible (including subjecting your kid to the authorities). This is a very sensitive time (when you discover a demon has been abusing your kids). It should be 100% about your kids. Now I'm not condoning you murder the abuser (for legal reasons)... But if you do, don't fight in front of the kids. Invite the abuser to the woods for a beer and "talk" about it.