Dude, lay off of it. I got a divorce last year..I will not take full responsibility for it, she had her own issues and negative contributions, too.
But I will say that constantly bombarding myself with all this shit and taking the cares of the world on my shoulders did not help my relationship. It made me always angry. Even if I wasn’t angry at her, it would still get aimed at her sometimes.
I’m not glad to be a divorced person, but I am glad not to be married to that person anymore.
It took that hell for me to realize some things about myself…one of them being, I was waaaay too involved in all of this shit.
It isn’t worth it, man.
Don’t let it go to the point that something bad has to happen for you to wake up and be forced to take a step back.
Do it of your own volition. I took a YEAR off of all this shit. I’m glad I did. Even now, I’m reluctant to pay too much attention because I do not want to go back to where I was.
The fact is, you already know enough to know what’s going on in the world. Every piece of data you can gather isn’t going to help you at this point..in fact seems to be destructive. Walk away for a while, if not forever.
Lots of wise advice here. I'm sorry about your divorce, but it looks like all you've gone through has had a positive effect.
Toughest time of my life..and then two weeks later, I met a woman better suited for me. Been with her a year now. Will likely be getting remarried. I suppose it all worked out for the better.
I'm glad things are working out for you :-)
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