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I don't want to date again, I don't even know if my brain would be able to support a new relationship. It has this idea of intimacy, but only for someone who'se no longer alive. And yet my brain feels completely numbed out since then. I sometimes entertain the idea, and yet even I did get into a relationship again, I would become incredibly sad within a week and hate myself. And yet, not being in a relationship just makes me incredibly lonely. I have no idea how to get out of this bullshit mental trap, I fucking hate it. I just wish there was an easy solution out of this mess

I don't want to date again, I don't even know if my brain would be able to support a new relationship. It has this idea of intimacy, but only for someone who'se no longer alive. And yet my brain feels completely numbed out since then. I sometimes entertain the idea, and yet even I did get into a relationship again, I would become incredibly sad within a week and hate myself. And yet, not being in a relationship just makes me incredibly lonely. I have no idea how to get out of this bullshit mental trap, I fucking hate it. I just wish there was an easy solution out of this mess

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Listen man. It sucks. I know. My wife died as well. It took some time before I was comfortable dating again. I've been seeing a widow for half the year. So that helps having shared experiences. I'm actually going to move the relationship forward soon.

Basically go at your own pace. Your journey is your own. Do what is right for you and only you. You'll figure it out. My only other advice is if you have any self diagnosed depression speak to a therapist. I did for a few months and that helped get my mind in order right after my wife died. I was able to refocus on living and enjoying life again. With a renew purpose.

If you need to talk more pm me.