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I don't want to date again, I don't even know if my brain would be able to support a new relationship. It has this idea of intimacy, but only for someone who'se no longer alive. And yet my brain feels completely numbed out since then. I sometimes entertain the idea, and yet even I did get into a relationship again, I would become incredibly sad within a week and hate myself. And yet, not being in a relationship just makes me incredibly lonely. I have no idea how to get out of this bullshit mental trap, I fucking hate it. I just wish there was an easy solution out of this mess

I don't want to date again, I don't even know if my brain would be able to support a new relationship. It has this idea of intimacy, but only for someone who'se no longer alive. And yet my brain feels completely numbed out since then. I sometimes entertain the idea, and yet even I did get into a relationship again, I would become incredibly sad within a week and hate myself. And yet, not being in a relationship just makes me incredibly lonely. I have no idea how to get out of this bullshit mental trap, I fucking hate it. I just wish there was an easy solution out of this mess

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Hey OP. Sorry to hear about your loss man. Would your previous lady truly care about you being happy? Was she that type where your happiness mattered to her? If so, then it's safe to say she would rather see you happy. It's not going to be easy to go through all of the "firsts" again... First kiss first everything etc. Just be upfront and honest with whoever you're dating that you lost your previous spouse and you want to take it slow. Everyone deserves affection, love, and general comfort. Do not deny yourself these things out of guilt. I would think your ex-spouse would rather see you attempting to find some semblance of normalcy after everything. Godspeed sir.