My mom's advice is multi fold, but it was pretty disheartening. As context my sister died a few years ago, and i still cant make out if it was suicide or natural causes, but a large part of it was the immense stress of having to deal with my mom that eventually got to her. My mom's advice pretty much boils down to the idea no woman will ever love me. Since I'm now in my 30s, most women will see dating me as a business transaction over a loving relationship. Because of this, any and all things I bring to the table are only in relation to the benefit for potential kids. Whilst I can agree on this to an extent, it came off really harsh to me. It also makes me question why my mom married my dad, especially since she openly admits she was banging two dudes at once (my dad and some other guy) before she "settled down". The second argument was that my ideals, and core beliefs are functionally incompatible with current day society. In her eyes, me not being a whore mongering liberal is a bad thing, and that I need to accustom myself to all the news, propaganda and customs of the world. Since I don't I am forever to be seen as an outcast who will never be ready to enter a serious relationship. This makes me think, I was texting back and forth with this one woman (prior posts for context), and I abruptly cut off texting her for a bit for now. It's annoying since she's been texting me more often, unprompted, but part of me becomes incredibly sad when my mom gives me any kind of relationship advice. She especially knows bringing up my sister is harsh on me, but she just shits all over her all the time. My mom's advice always makes me question if maybe im the one who'se wrong. Sure, I do have a good woman in my sights, but if that person would never loves or sees me beyond a meal ticket, what does it matter if I auto reject her and stay alone? What does it even matter if I die tomorrow, by my mom's own words, I have no inherent reason to be alive anyways.