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The stress...the physical and psychological work of caring for a dying person...in a matter of hours mom went from feeding herself and able to stand up to not being able to do either. insert curse word of your choice

The stress...the physical and psychological work of caring for a dying person...in a matter of hours mom went from feeding herself and able to stand up to not being able to do either. *insert curse word of your choice*

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[–] • 3 pts

See how much morphine they are administering.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

The hospice killed my dad with morphine. They kept upping the dose till it killed him.

It was the right thing to do but also cowardly because it was done stealthily.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Same with my mother, she had COPD with Edema, and instead of giving her a diuretic like Lasix and sending her home, they put her in their Hospice section and started pumping her with massive amounts of morphine, even though she was in zero discomfort. She didn't last two days after that.

[–] • 1 pt

Sorry to hear about that.my dad had stomach cancer and it ate alive

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

We're not there yet. Hospital bed arrives tomorrow and she's not complaining of pain as of now.

[–] • 1 pt

Make sure you tell her that you love her before she dies, that's something we rarely do while we're alive, that's something we think is self evident, so we rarely say it. This isn't just important for her, it's also important for you, because you won't be able to do it afterward

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

The most important thing is that you are there with her during these last days.

My ma and her siblings just went through this with my grandmother. Ma laid in the bed with grammy her last night on Earth and held her hand as she passed. Yeah it's sad, but it is heartwarming to know she was never alone.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

That is a good thought, thinking about your mom holding her mom's hand. thank you for sharing that. The world goes round and we all take our turn.

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[–] • 1 pt

I sorry that you are hurting. You’re a good child to stay with your mother at the hardest time of your lives.

[–] • 1 pt

I've been there. I'm really sorry to hear about that. You need to survive it, that's the point of life. Pass on what you have learned. Then it will be your time to pass on.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Thanks. The stress of it all and the older sibling bullying and trying to control without assisting. Ugh.

[–] • 1 pt

So sorry to hear.

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

Thanks. Helps just to say it. Dante had Virgil, I've got my fellow Poalies! I'll get through this!

[–] • 0 pt

My neighbor had to go through a similar very unexpected passing of his mother during the first months of Covid, he never got to see her in the last few weeks of her life for real personal closure.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

I'm sorry man. Bear it, and you will come out stronger. I will send you prayers.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

I know you're right about that. Thank you for the prayers, I'll take all I can get!

[–] • 1 pt

My mother in law had a stroke and without end of life options the hospital just stopped feeding her and she just rotted away from dehydration.

Sorry to hear about your mum. Hang tough

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

It's about money not humanity. I'm sorry about your mom-in-law. May she rest in peace. We've had our fill of subpar hospitals and staff that could give a rat's fart about an old patient. This won't be easy- it isn't already. But it's better all way round. Thanks.

[–] • 1 pt

I know. Going thru it with my mom. No other family to help. It is an emotional roller coaster. Hang in there.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Hey how's it going? Hanging in there and getting respite for yourself? I hope your home hospice service is giving you as much help as possible- if not, ask them for nurses aides and whatever assist devices you need to help you provide care. I'm hanging in there; not getting much sleep, pulling muscles... God is with us on this journey, stay well and be strong.

[–] • 0 pt

Thanks. Been a good week. I know it wont last but, such is life.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Thanks my friend, same to you. It is tough watching your loved one fade and suffer, much less the physical and emotional toll on the family. We'll get through it.