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Pretty sure there's no such thing as a non confirming/individualistic women, just different flavors of hedges and conformity based off perceived power and status, that is really the only answer that explains the current day women. Over my study of trying to understand what it means to date a Christian women, I have come upon the following conclusions

  • The core ideals are fine to an extent, but the whole "everything is a dealbreaker" attitude becomes very irritating to deal with. Sometimes I just want to kiss the person without being told that my teeth are dirty, or sometimes I just want a hug. Not everything has to be a perfect kodak moment of perfection. And yet, a lot of times it feels that way. It's to the point that even basic things I want to do come off as un intuitive and weird, where it feels like im making the other person uncomfortable, whilst being told im not physical enough. It's beyond confusing to me, because Im essentially getting all sorts of conflicting information

  • God will take care attitude. Not saying he wont, but this screams of the Q-Anon mentality of do nothing, someone else will do the heavy lifting. This is again, irritating over time because it becomes close to impossible to read what exactly the person wants. It also caused an almost bi polar presentation of being hot and cold, which is very confusing to see. A relationship can't really work if one person has a do nothing attitude.

  • Sexuality is a little all over. On one hand, they don't have sex before marriage, on the other hand this rule seems a little ... lackluster. Sure, maybe not sex per se, but these same women will do a host of other things which would be considered sinful as well. French kissing before marriage for example is a sin due to the nature of why the kissing is happening, but this rule is ignored. Actually, a lot of common day romantic events could be considered a sin, but are routinely ignored. This creates a very confusing cherry picking of biblical ideals where one has absolutely no idea what the boundaries are. ' Realistically this brings me to my conclusion, that there is no playbook on how to date a woman. Just do whatever the fuck feels right, and go from there. I used to spend hours trying to rack my head on what women were doing and why, and what its meaning is. The newsflash is there is no meaning, its just a slightly grown up neurotic child, who has no clue what the heck they're doing. Hence all the conflicting signals and stuff, are really just minor shit tests of her brain going completely haywire, trying to test you to see how you react

Pretty sure there's no such thing as a non confirming/individualistic women, just different flavors of hedges and conformity based off perceived power and status, that is really the only answer that explains the current day women. Over my study of trying to understand what it means to date a Christian women, I have come upon the following conclusions * The core ideals are fine to an extent, but the whole "everything is a dealbreaker" attitude becomes very irritating to deal with. Sometimes I just want to kiss the person without being told that my teeth are dirty, or sometimes I just want a hug. Not everything has to be a perfect kodak moment of perfection. And yet, a lot of times it feels that way. It's to the point that even basic things I want to do come off as un intuitive and weird, where it feels like im making the other person uncomfortable, whilst being told im not physical enough. It's beyond confusing to me, because Im essentially getting all sorts of conflicting information * God will take care attitude. Not saying he wont, but this screams of the Q-Anon mentality of do nothing, someone else will do the heavy lifting. This is again, irritating over time because it becomes close to impossible to read what exactly the person wants. It also caused an almost bi polar presentation of being hot and cold, which is very confusing to see. A relationship can't really work if one person has a do nothing attitude. * Sexuality is a little all over. On one hand, they don't have sex before marriage, on the other hand this rule seems a little ... lackluster. Sure, maybe not sex per se, but these same women will do a host of other things which would be considered sinful as well. French kissing before marriage for example is a sin due to the nature of why the kissing is happening, but this rule is ignored. Actually, a lot of common day romantic events could be considered a sin, but are routinely ignored. This creates a very confusing cherry picking of biblical ideals where one has absolutely no idea what the boundaries are. ' Realistically this brings me to my conclusion, that there is no playbook on how to date a woman. Just do whatever the fuck feels right, and go from there. I used to spend hours trying to rack my head on what women were doing and why, and what its meaning is. The newsflash is there is no meaning, its just a slightly grown up neurotic child, who has no clue what the heck they're doing. Hence all the conflicting signals and stuff, are really just minor shit tests of her brain going completely haywire, trying to test you to see how you react

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Point one. With dating aps women now have endless options for attention and validation. That feeds into the deal breaker attitude. There is nothing you can control about this.

Point two. These are the women that will be crying with their cats and wine in their 30s wondering "where all the good men went". There is nothing you can control about this.

Point three. Maybe they do and just not with you? Women will break the rules for "Chad".

Good luck man, I simply don't give a fuck what women want. I work on being my best self and if one wants to join me in that for awhile I'll allow it until they flake or I decide it isn't working.

Sounds like you might be dating for marriage. I recommend avoiding that trap.

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Point one. With dating aps women now have endless options for attention and validation. That feeds into the deal breaker attitude. There is nothing you can control about this.

True, I kinda got the idea, but the entitlement and attitudes have made dating most common day women close to completely useless. If you don't fit the list, there's hundreds of other dudes in the line who can take your place.

Point two. These are the women that will be crying with their cats and wine in their 30s wondering "where all the good men went". There is nothing you can control about this.

I talked to this women about her past dating life, and sure enough, I kinda figured out what was happening. She applied an incredibly strict checklist so even potential suitors were being rejected for completely arbitrary reasons. Actually, based off what she said, it sounds like she regrets breaking up with her ex boyfriend, which makes me think he broke up with her, and not the other way around

Point three. Maybe they do and just not with you? Women will break the rules for "Chad".

She's hot and cold, but some of the attraction elements are hypocritical and a little superficial. She's already shown a clear amount of attraction, she just gets turned off by the dumbest things

Sounds like you might be dating for marriage. I recommend avoiding that trap.

Isn't all dating for marriage essentially?

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If you don't fit the list

It's entertaining how many female dating profiles don't tell you shit about the woman. It is just a shopping list of things they want from you.

Sounds like you might have a bit of oneitis concerning this girl. She'll pickup on that and it won't be to your advantage.

You can date casually for company and fun. I don't believe in marriage given the current state of family law. It is a sad state, but a man must protect his future and finances against the risks involved with co-habitation, marriage, and children.