My point was that today's women are not making a choice to work to provide for their family. Unless you're making good money as a sole provider, your wife will have to work to afford a family. You suggested that you're dad only made $30k, but had a large family and you all were happy. I asked what time period was this happy family? In the late 70's early 80's, $30k was that "good money" that I was referring to. So, it was possible for your mom to stay at home and raise a family successfully. You then said that you make 5 times what he made, have a smaller family, but because your wife works (I assume), you guys aren't as happy. I then explained that if you were growing up in the 70's and 80's, your dad's $30k was actually more than your $150k (the 5 times) today. You aren't making that "good money" to be able to have a sole earner ability. Few people do. Our money is worthless, prices are out of control. Labor is cheap so we don't get paid like we should. Both parents have to work. It isn't a choice.