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My wife went (is going through?) this... pharmacist in a hospital.

As the push started, but before she said "no"... We started with getting a copy of every performance evaluation they are all the best that can be given over the time she's been there. Next was a letter of reference from her boss as she said she wanted to maybe look for a second job (only a 20hr/week job so this is unique). She also took about 6 months worth of scheduling calendars, showing where people had to work overtime when another was out (because it's so short-staffed). Then she has the ace up the sleeve of having a history of anaphylaxis, well documented... again, unique. With those together she said no. The "compromise" was having to wear a mask at all times on the property.

The evals and recommendation are proof against them saying they just "let her go" because she wasn't performing. You need to take care of the "position wasn't needed", which is what the calendar is for. Even so, it's VERY hard to get fired and get unemployment, their lawyers will fight with every trick they've built into the system to screw you. It'll cost YOU money to fight back, so at Least have some ammo available to try (if you decide to)... but don't expect or count on any kind of unemployment. We've seen 2 people "let go" from my wifes place that should have been a simple "your fired" (one made serious med errors for month in a row, other was caught on camera sexually harassing another employee) but were very legal "let go" where the employer fought against unemployment (why is anyone's guess, probably because it's a State hospital and they don't pay into unemployment just like they don't pay into social security?)

Regardless, it's a touch position to be in. I'd like to offer a second, parallel, piece of advice. Don't try to "fix" whatever she's complaining about while she's tell you about it. Just listen, let her vent... more times than not, that's all my wife wants of needs. I don't try to offer suggestions till much later (next day, sometimes several days later), just incase all she wanted was to vent. Since doing this, my marriage has improved over an already great experience.

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you are so right about not interjecting into her venting. oh how many times ive stepped into my own self created shitpile.