I can’t add much that already hasn’t been said but to offer some support. I agree it sounds like she may have Post Partum Depression. The unfortunate thing is with PPD you can be the most loving husband and say and do all the right things and it doesn’t impact it - like there’s a wall there… it can definitely be caused by some imbalance on the female hormones going crazy after birth (which is probably the case here since she is also having trouble with milk production) I have come to the philosophy that birth and newborn stage is like changing gears on a bicycle - sometimes things go great right away sometimes it’s not as smooth but it does get there eventually. I am glad to hear she is enjoying time with your baby - that is a good sign! And that oxytocin can help with milk release and production. If I could give her a piece of advice it would be give yourself time to recover and don’t put all these high expectations on yourself. It seems that modern women have this idea that they can just bounce back and everything will be great. Birth is rough - it’s a battle that she fought and has her well earned reward. See the small wins of the day. Did you get dressed for the first time in a week? That’s a win. Did you get a nap? That’s a win. Did the baby nurse? That’s a win. They won’t seem like much but this is the time to pull WAY back. Now when it comes to the breastfeeding difficulty there’s not much I can say except there are some independent lactation consultants out there - maybe one near you? Unfortunately the LLL has been taken over by libs. I have heard there are lots of recipes for increase milk production cookies. I’ve heard brewers yeast can increase production as well. Now to her lady parts. That I do have experience with - I got ripped a new one with our first and was in constant pain for almost 6 months. It is very possible things are not the same down there. It is very easy to mourn the loss of your pre-baby lady parts. Some of that will need to just be acceptance over time of your battle scars. BUT please have her look into female physical therapy for pelvic floor. I’m currently heavily pregnant with our fifth and all the pain from my first is come back because of the weight and it is causing ahem… painful dysfunction… my midwife said pelvic floor physical therapy can make things go back to the way things were before my first - here’s hoping…. I wish you and your wife luck. Source: mother of almost 5, ppd sufferer for after first 2