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[–] • 10 pts

There is no “the one.” It makes sense to pretend there is for romantic talk purposes after you’ve found one that’s alright.

[–] • 4 pts

Came here to say this. You have to find one you connect well enough with, and what “well enough” depends on the individual. Her temperament and yours must mesh, and the collective capacity to compromise must be balanced.

[–] • 1 pt

oh, and if someone disagrees with me, that’s his momma talking

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Was it destiny you and your wife found each other or just "eh, probability was high we'd meet an alright person someday"?

[–] • 3 pts

Depends how you define destiny. It happened this way and didn’t happen another way. Does that mean it was destiny?

Could it have been foreseen if you knew enough cause-and-effect information? Yes.

Does that mean it’s part of a best-of-all-possible-worlds situation? Part of a divine plan? Are the hardships we face just a lesson plan for our immortal souls?

Sounds like wishful thinking to me. More than half of all guys who find “the one” are divorced.

[–] • 0 pt

You dont "find" "the one", you choose her and dedicate "the one" to the Lord. Before that happens, all women are just women. You return kindness and respect when given, and you build it from the ground up.

[–] • 1 pt

You talk like a fag

[–] • 6 pts

The first date. By the end of the evening, we felt like we knew each other forever. We balked a bit, as neither of us really believed in 'love at first sight', but after a few weeks, we made it exclusive.

Feel like two halves of the same person, on the same page with most everything.

We met in '78, married in '80, so 46 years together, 44th anniversary this October.

[–] • 2 pts

> We met in '78, married in '80, so 46 years together, 44th anniversary this October. >>

Congratulations, and happy early anniversary.

[–] • 2 pts

Same to you, fyfy!

Fall's our favorite time of year and we got married at peak foliage. Rained all week, but on Friday, the sun came out and our pictures are just beautiful!

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

I want this. I might have this.

[–] • 3 pts

Just remember, committed (especially with marriage vows), relationships take work, it's not all sunshine and roses.

We've weathered things that would have torn most couples apart. 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger'.

Our union was made stronger by working things out, as opposed to giving up and walking away.

I wish you the best of luck. A solid marriage is one of the best things in life, along with raising kids in a loving family.

I feel so blessed, may you be, as well!

[–] • 2 pts

You'll know she's the one after you've lived together for a few years and you still like each other.

[–] • 1 pt

Well, It started with the THUNDERBOLT, a shock at seeing the most beautiful girl in the world. The old Italians talked about it, and I thought it was bullshit till it happened to me. She on the other hand needed wooing. We dated a bit, broke up a bit. We continued to be friends, but when we committed we knew it was forever. 25 years together, still happy with our choices.

[–] • 1 pt

Great Question! Wisdom is the the truth to this. If God Almighty sanctified it, then wisdom is the knowing. It is a soul and spirit thing, brother.

[–] • 1 pt

Sitting in my now-husbands truck, heading to see some live music one afternoon before we were officially together. Sat at an intersection waiting for a light and he points out a church (Christian) and says 'that's my church'. He'd done work on the property and helped build so I said 'yours because you helped build it?' and he said 'no, i attend there'. He knew I was a Christian and I knew he had faith but I did not realize the depth of his commitment to faith and our shared ideas of what faith should be. I found out he was a 'church boy' and everything built from there.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

Several minor but important ones. Respect and reverence for her dad, despite him not being very good (but also not terribly bad). Some restraint in life from Christian values. Not drinking. Longing for children. Low body count (even if she lies, its still not high for modern counts). Good work discipline but also not married to her job. No college degree and no desire to acquire academic knowledge from modern sources. No evil or degenerate friends (most are more elderly women). Very few cursing/foul words used even when mad.

There is no definite green flag, but as long as there is no huge red flag such as a trampstamp, you're good to go.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Thank you.

[–] • 1 pt

She knew I was the one when she knew I was for real when I told her Id give my life to her if she is a good mother for my children, btw (words were not enough; she only knew for certain once she saw the first gun coming into a safe but accessible spot. It was as traumatic as relieving for her)

[–] • 1 pt

My husband says it was on our 2nd or 3rd date when I chucked a piece of gum out of my mouth into a bush as we were walking into a restaurant.

For me? There was no “moment”. It was a compilation of many moments.

Married 39 years next month.