>Just be aware that people change with time and most of those things could change too You absolutely do not tolerate that mindset in a partner when it comes to fundamental parts of the relationship like kids, financial goals, politics, etc. Because either they applied no reason and evidence to their core life decisions to begin with (aka they're a NPC), or they're using it as a bullshit excuse to blow up your marriage down the road. Extraneous things like your hubby deciding to switch from playing golf every Tuesday to pickleball is no big deal, but they dont get to "change" their viewpoint on dealbreakers with time. Whether that's "surprise I dont want kids" or "I want to bang Becki the Wonderslut", that is absolutely unacceptable. Because if they tell you that, they're telling you that they think it's OK to unilaterally blow up the relationship.