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Recently my wife left me for no apparent reason. She even told me that I did nothing wrong. We've been together for about twenty years. We actually met long before that but I was married to someone else then and it was not something I would persue. I don't believe in cheating. I think she has been cheating for a while but I have just been in denial. I consider her to be "the love of my life" but she is already living with another man and I received some divorce papers in the mail that I've hardly looked at. It seems to be some kind of "no fault" deal where what is in her possession is hers etc. Fortunately, my house and land were bought and paid for before we were married so it is not considered community property in my state. I think that I would just die if I didn't have animals that I am responsible for and that I can't just abandon to starve to death. I've just got home from drinking at the VFW but that didn't help. I thought that alcohol might deaden the pain but it didn't work. I know that we are done but that doesn't make it feel any better. I don't expect anyone to solve my problems, I'm just venting.

Recently my wife left me for no apparent reason. She even told me that I did nothing wrong. We've been together for about twenty years. We actually met long before that but I was married to someone else then and it was not something I would persue. I don't believe in cheating. I think she has been cheating for a while but I have just been in denial. I consider her to be "the love of my life" but she is already living with another man and I received some divorce papers in the mail that I've hardly looked at. It seems to be some kind of "no fault" deal where what is in her possession is hers etc. Fortunately, my house and land were bought and paid for before we were married so it is not considered community property in my state. I think that I would just die if I didn't have animals that I am responsible for and that I can't just abandon to starve to death. I've just got home from drinking at the VFW but that didn't help. I thought that alcohol might deaden the pain but it didn't work. I know that we are done but that doesn't make it feel any better. I don't expect anyone to solve my problems, I'm just venting.

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[–] • 4 pts

I'm really sorry to hear that, dude.

It seems to be some kind of "no fault" deal where what is in her possession is hers etc. Fortunately, my house and land were bought and paid for before we were married so it is not considered community property in my state.

First off, get a second set of eyes on that, from an attorney. No matter how much you think the law is in your favor, if she has clever legal council, it isn't

Secondly, alcohol will not help you in this situation.

Lastly, have you considered writing something about it?

[–] • 5 pts

Yeah, I'm going to find an attorney Monday. My wife just wants me to get it notarized and let it go at that. I don't think so... I will never trust her again. I know alcohol won't help. It helped to be around people who I have something in common with and have my back though. I'm not much of a drinker and I didn't drink much.

[–] • 2 pts

Sorry you have to go through this - sometimes shit hands just get dealt. Everything Theo said is good, and it sounds like you have a decent handle on things. But also consider having a good friend or family member hang out or stay with you for a few days. It will help keep your mind occupied, and they can support you too if needed - especially if you're really upset. Sometimes it's just good to talk.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

But also consider having a good friend or family member hang out or stay with you for a few days. It will help keep your mind occupied, and they can support you too if needed - especially if you're really upset. Sometimes it's just good to talk.

seconding this statement from

[–] • 0 pt

I had a similar thing. Cost me a lot financially, emotionally, and spiritually. American Law follows English custom. If she packed up and left, that's abandonment.(I found this little jewel out too late) you might see what/if the attorney says. Often, an attorney will do a free consultation. Might be an idea to try a couple, go with your gut from there. Sorry to hear this, it's a shit sandwich all around. Try to moderate the booze, eat right, stay busy, it one to think.

[–] • 2 pts

Agreed about getting an opinion. I’d hate to see you lose your land.