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Hypothetical: Is a wife who cooks and cleans for everyone held in high enough regard that a hard working bachelor would keep her and her spouse around a while to cook and clean for the household? (lets say the husband was between jobs and just found one after a year)

Is the comfort that a woman brings by cooking so much that it can hold the group together despite financial hardships? Shower thoughts. (Edit: grammar)

Hypothetical: Is a wife who cooks and cleans for everyone held in high enough regard that a hard working bachelor would keep her and her spouse around a while to cook and clean for the household? (lets say the husband was between jobs and just found one after a year) Is the comfort that a woman brings by cooking so much that it can hold the group together despite financial hardships? Shower thoughts. (Edit: grammar)

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[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

Is the comfort that a woman brings by cooking so much that it can hold the group together despite financial hardships?

I say yes.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

thats interesting, i was really confused by this for some reason. She would be the ultimate moral captain

[–] • 2 pts (edited )

Hitler’s Speech to the National Socialist Women’s League (September 8, 1934)

"If the man's world is said to be the State, his struggle, his readiness to devote his powers to the service of the community, then it may perhaps be said that the woman's is a smaller world. For her world is her husband, her family, her children, and her home. But what would become of the greater world if there were no one to tend and care for the smaller one? How could the greater world survive if there were no one to make the cares of the smaller world the content of their lives? No, the greater world is built on the foundation of this smaller world. This great world cannot survive if the smaller world is not stable. Providence has entrusted to the woman the cares of that world which is her very own, and only on the basis of this smaller world can the man's world be formed and built up. The two worlds are not antagonistic. They complement each other, they belong together just as man and woman belong together." - Purportedly words of Arthur Schopenhauer being quoted by Adolf Hitler

https://archive.ph/vUtGy | http://www.renegadetribune.com/hitler-was-a-great-man/ "He could quote entire paragraphs of Schopenhauer from memory, and for a long time carried a pocket edition of Schopenhauer with him."

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

This kind of reads like cuckoldry. Why is the single bachelor hanging around a married couple and the wife of the other man is cooking for him? Seems suspicious.

He could easily just hire a maid or cleaning service and order food or cook himself.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

I imagine the guy would be buying takeout for himself. It could have started as a larger, tighter friendgroup where people were starved of proper attention growing up. Now they provide family like validation on a level they never were exposed to as kids to eachother. Hypothetically

[–] • 2 pts

OK this clearly isn't hypothetical. Just say you moved in with a relative, you do all the cooking and cleaning while your husband is between jobs and you want to know if this guy should be grateful. The gratitude should work both ways and you're great for doing all of the household work and if nobody is verbally appreciating you, we appreciate you being the type of person to do it.....hypothetically.

[–] • 1 pt

Just don't be fucking the "bachelor".

[–] • 0 pt

It seems like he did hire a maid/chef, that being the wife of the other guy, and is providing room and board for the services rendered. Unless the hard-working/moderately wealthy bachelor is making advances on the woman (Or she upon him) then it's not really cuckoldry or anything of the sort.

Basically, a live in maid/chef situation but the maid/chef brings along her husband - who is in this scenario looking for work but won't find any for a year. At least, that's how I'm seeing the question posed and framed.

A nice home cooked meal can do wonders for morale, especially when someone else made it for you. Lord knows making a meal can be stressful, especially if the people don't appreciate it, or if you're dead tired from doing other work. Having it hot and fresh is way different from having it reheated.

[–] • 0 pt

Why are two guys living with one married woman? Seems bizarre to me and that wouldn't be allowed in my house.

[–] • 1 pt

What if the bachelor is your brother? Or widowed father?

[–] • 0 pt

Okay, imagine this.

There is a Mildly wealthy European man. A nobleman, though very minor nobility, or perhaps he's a mildly successful merchant. He has a decently sized manor, but he's out for the day most days. He doesn't need much staff at all, just someone to clean and cook while he's away. So, he hires a live-in maid who just so happens to also know her way around a kitchen as is right and proper. She has a stipulation, however, that her husband move in as his job has gone up in smoke and there's immutable evidence that he is not just sitting on his ass, he is undeniably looking for work though tough times have dried up all the usual work opportunities.

The nobleman says "Alright, but his room and board will be taken from your pay as I will have to purchase extra necessities to account for him." And allows them to live in his manor. He's got the empty room for them, after all. Nowhere in this scenario is anyone being unfaithful or trying to be skeevy.

Is that cuckoldry?

If no, then this scenario presented in OP is not cuckoldry.

If yes, then this scenario presented in OP is cuckoldry.

[–] • 1 pt

The guy would have to be a good friend of mine before I'd consider letting them move in with me. Also the impact of cooking is overrated. She would have to have Italian-grandma-level cooking skills, not the frozen pizza/mac and cheese level skills the millennial women I know have, before this hypothetical harmonious-cooking magic could occur.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

She wouldn't be cooking boxed or canned food. But she might be learning to cook better by looking up recipes and cooking specific meals the guys asked for. One day she would be Italian Gramma material

[–] • 0 pt

It depends on how hungry you are.