So far, with this band, we've had no drunk chicks strip on top of anything. I'm pretty sure that's a good thing. Also, I made it possible to accept my offer without damaging their pride. Not everything is a gift - it's a hand up, not a handout. It's not all gifted and without conditions. Their mother had to get a job, for example. I expect the kids to do manual labor. I'd expect the same things from my family. They were just in a position where none of that was feasible and it was not a healthy living environment. Maintaining their pride was probably the easiest part of the equation. I was more worried about the grandfather's pride, but that was surprisingly easy to deal with. If anything, I should have done this sooner. I didn't, because interfering in private lives is generally frowned on in this neighborhood. But, they are my neighbors and I have a great deal of affinity towards all of them. It's a very tight community and very small. The fault of not doing this sooner is entirely my own. I could have saved them years of hardship. I did not do so. I failed. I can't help everyone, but I can help them. They've still got to do the work. I just enabled them to have different goals and expectations.