Wow she sounds pretty damn lucky. I hope show knows it. You seem like a pretty generous guy when you decide to take someone under your wing. A teacher that knows something like music as well as you do is a rare thing. A national treasure I'd almost say.
I do have one question, what is tube amp warmth?
8,000 watts is nothing to sneeze at. Thats a lot of sound.
When I made my offer to the family, I told them that I'd treat them exactly as I'd treat my own family. So, I do.
It has taken some time, and had a few awkward moments, but we've settled into a comfortable routine. She's seemingly very aware of how her circumstances have changed. On the other hand, it's I who feels like he's getting the better part of the bargain.
I have a few bucks, so money isn't really a concern. I get something of far greater value in return. I get love, respect, admiration, and the chance to influence and teach. The youngest spends less time here, but that's okay too.
They don't owe me anything. If they owed me something, it'd be a loan. What I have given them is a hand up and it's a gift. Gifts are given without strings attached. If there are strings attached, it's not a gift - it's barter.
Of all her expressions, this one is the most meaningful to me. "Now all I need is a frog." It alludes to the story of the frog and the princess. Her circumstances have changed drastically and she likens it to old fairy tales and realities she never dreamed she could have.
And, again, I'm pretty confident that I get the better part of this exchange. She owes me exactly nothing. She gives me more than I could ask for. Her progress has been steady. Her willingness to learn has been exemplary. Her dedication to practice has been damned near flawless. She's already in the studio this morning - and has been in there for about an hour.
I'm not 100% positive, but I'll probably be getting her a Gibson Les Paul Standard and an aluminum case. I'll also throw in a combo amp, a few key pedals, and a multi-effects pedal. I may use it as an excuse to teach her something - so I may throw in some expensive strings. Why? So she can see that you can get as good, and sometimes better, results from strings that are in the middle of the price range and that more expensive absolutely doesn't mean better.
Like I said, she is treated like my family.
The above is adequate for a start on the path to becoming a professional musician, should she choose to do so. I'm not buying her something extravagant. I'm buying her the minimal components that will last her a lifetime and enable the option of moving towards making music a career choice. It's not extravagant, it's pragmatic.
Her first pick was a Les Paul in the $10k range. That was immediately declined. I treat her as though she's family.
With regards to your tube amp question, this appears to be for audiophiles - but the answer is valid for guitar amps. They explain it better than I will. But, be aware that they appear to be an 'audiophile' and some of them are batshit insane.
https://kenrockwell.com/audio/why-tubes-sound-better.htm
And, yup... We can make some serious noise. We can fill a giant arena with sound. Because we have duplicates on the truck, we can actually almost double that.
I'm not kidding when I say we cause permanent hearing loss. We will damage your hearing. The loss will be permanent. We do our best to keep it at a very minimal level, but people gravitate to the speakers. There's not much distance, at many venues, between the stage and the audience. The people in the back need to hear clearly. People will get as close to the speakers as we let them, even if they've been warned.
In some venues, our stacks are actually off the stage and in front of it. People will get within inches of them. They have warning labels. Drunks do not care - and sober people don't care all that much either. I've had people climb all over them. I've had more than one chick get up there and dance in various states of undress - including stripping.
They do not care. They want us to cause permanent hearing loss. We do.
Honestly that girl isn't all that far off the mark on the fairy tale comparison. If not dead on it. Personally I cannot imagine a scenario like that nor would I probably accept such an offer, my pride would get in the way, I'm not sure if thats a good thing or not, its helped me survive so I guess its at least helpful at times.
I really need to come see one of these shows, drunk girls stripping on top of speakers sounds like a thing to see.
So far, with this band, we've had no drunk chicks strip on top of anything. I'm pretty sure that's a good thing.
Also, I made it possible to accept my offer without damaging their pride. Not everything is a gift - it's a hand up, not a handout. It's not all gifted and without conditions. Their mother had to get a job, for example. I expect the kids to do manual labor.
I'd expect the same things from my family. They were just in a position where none of that was feasible and it was not a healthy living environment. Maintaining their pride was probably the easiest part of the equation. I was more worried about the grandfather's pride, but that was surprisingly easy to deal with.
If anything, I should have done this sooner. I didn't, because interfering in private lives is generally frowned on in this neighborhood. But, they are my neighbors and I have a great deal of affinity towards all of them. It's a very tight community and very small. The fault of not doing this sooner is entirely my own. I could have saved them years of hardship. I did not do so. I failed. I can't help everyone, but I can help them.
They've still got to do the work. I just enabled them to have different goals and expectations.
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