I'm mid 50's, same. My kids however are so worried about appropriating a culture, they have full blown discussions now about Halloween parties, and what they should go as. I ask why do they care so much about beads etc , they said they will get chastised and never get a job if any non white person (jews, Mexicans ,blacks, Muslim, etc) takes offense to their costumes.
Then you should pose subtle poignant questions to them whenever you encounter those situations:
"Why should anyone have power over you to say what you can and can't wear?"
"What is your culture as a White person?"
"Why would you associate with people that would hurt you because they disapprove?"
Many people are mentally chained to a crafted world-view and don't even know it. The best thing that you can do is to show them that there are places outside those mental boundaries and that they are free to venture beyond them -- this is why red-pilling has become so popular.
They know it, they just can't act it. As they said, the risk is too great, everyone has a video recording device (ie, smartphones). It's not your friends that care, it's some random third person 20 years from now seeing a Trump banner in the background of a picture, and holding you accountable.
I understand that, however names can be changed, or legal names not used in the first place.
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