Yea, apparently she has plenty of time to record and edit tiktok videos and manage her social media accounts as well as berating her husband for not doing enough.
This is a fundamental difference in thinking between men and women. I can speak about myself in that everything has a procedure and a solution: yes, I try to fix things. Women get annoyed by my inability to listen and console without having to fix the problem. That's just how I work. I also assume people can act on their own, so I don't jump to action if I see someone struggling right away. Again, it's just my thought process. I also don't imagine what women are going to want me to do for them until they ask. I have my own agenda. I assume I will be asked if they need help.
Now that I think about it, I actually find myself being annoyed by being constantly asked to do things at inconvenient times. I tolerate it because I know this will never change.
My wife sometimes gets frustrated when I don't anticipate what she wants or what she's thinking. I remind her that I've been this way for as long as she's known me and have never agreed to or promised to try to be a mind reader. I don't expect her to read my mind and don't even bother trying to read hers.
I do try to listen to her when she talks about things that bother her before offering a solution. THAT took a long time to learn. I usually prompt her with something like, "now that you know the issue, have you thought about what needs to be done?"
When I've tried to anticipate what a woman wants, I often get "I didn't ask you for that." Fine!
When I've tried to anticipate what a woman wants, I often get "I didn't ask you for that." Fine!
You can't win.
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