Put aside the validity of her complaints regarding shared responsibilities in marriage for a moment and think about the video itself. She's a wife and mom, with a TikTok, who decided to rant about her husband in the guise of "it gets better," embarrassing him in front of millions, so that the "mom-fluencers" will give her a pat on the back for being such a long-suffering wife.
Yea, apparently she has plenty of time to record and edit tiktok videos and manage her social media accounts as well as berating her husband for not doing enough.
This is a fundamental difference in thinking between men and women. I can speak about myself in that everything has a procedure and a solution: yes, I try to fix things. Women get annoyed by my inability to listen and console without having to fix the problem. That's just how I work. I also assume people can act on their own, so I don't jump to action if I see someone struggling right away. Again, it's just my thought process. I also don't imagine what women are going to want me to do for them until they ask. I have my own agenda. I assume I will be asked if they need help.
Now that I think about it, I actually find myself being annoyed by being constantly asked to do things at inconvenient times. I tolerate it because I know this will never change.
My wife sometimes gets frustrated when I don't anticipate what she wants or what she's thinking. I remind her that I've been this way for as long as she's known me and have never agreed to or promised to try to be a mind reader. I don't expect her to read my mind and don't even bother trying to read hers.
I do try to listen to her when she talks about things that bother her before offering a solution. THAT took a long time to learn. I usually prompt her with something like, "now that you know the issue, have you thought about what needs to be done?"
When I've tried to anticipate what a woman wants, I often get "I didn't ask you for that." Fine!
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