I like your theories and wanted to point out re: trans females (women who think they're men). I remember hearing that many of them were sexually abused before they transed, so in a way, turning themselves into men was a protective measure so they wouldn't be attractive or a target anymore. Similar behavior has been found with abuse victims overeating (self soothing) so they become fat, because the fat is a layer of protection and makes them no longer attractive. I've also heard of high rates of autism on both sides, but what does that mean-they are more open to suggestion? Unfortunately our speculation is verboten and alternative approaches, investigation, or anything beyond 100% delusion-enabling is 'hate'