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So from what I gather, unless you're a lying, narcissistic sociopath, dating apps are just not for you. I started this morning, and I already rage quit on the thing and decided to cancel the thing, Im surprised I lasted that long to be honest

So from what I gather, unless you're a lying, narcissistic sociopath, dating apps are just not for you. I started this morning, and I already rage quit on the thing and decided to cancel the thing, Im surprised I lasted that long to be honest

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[–] • 3 pts

The fact you used rage quit says perhaps you should spend some time dwelling upon thyself. The writings of Marcus Aurelius are wonderful if you need a jump start.

[–] • 1 pt

I was thinking about that too, focus on myself and make myself happy over the validation of others

[–] • 2 pts

It is the path we must all take at some time in our lives to progress. If you are successful, you will see yourself improve in every way, and so will others. They will be attracted to your inner confidence and strength and the company you seek will find you, likely many.

[–] • 2 pts

just find some social situations that aren't relationship based. church, clubs, whatever. Even if it is only dudes they will still have friends you haven't met before.

[–] • 2 pts (edited )

What did you expect? To find your future wife within 2 hours?

Dating takes time and is frustrating as hell. You notice that on the dating market the women rule and treat you like a piece of shit (unless you are top 1% alpha male).

[–] • 0 pt

The women only rule if you let them.

[–] • 2 pts

They will always have more options though?

(I don't mean one should cry about it, it's just reality)

[–] • 2 pts

Again, men give women so much power based on their looks. And women put a lot of value on men's looks. So yea, on that criteria they seem to be in control. As a man, you need to evaluate what you want in a woman as well as understand what she wants. I held out for what I wanted and I'm happy I did. Yes, it's very time consuming and difficult. It can take hundreds of dates and years. But consider the cost of a mistake.

[–] • 0 pt

Better get some gains.

[–] • 0 pt

You started and quit on the same day? While I do agree with you that the chicks on dating apps are usually fucked up beyond repair I think expecting a result in less than 24 and then "rage quitting" when you don't get one is probably more of a you problem.

Any decent chicks on there who would have met you probably dodged a bullet

[–] • 1 pt

It's part of a new direction im heading into. Instead of relying on tech, dating apps, etc, my goal is to create a real community around me I can rely on. Much harder, and takes much longer, but also more rewarding and does not allow my brain to became dependent on virtual narcissism

[–] • 0 pt

Any decent chicks on there

lol

[–] • 0 pt

Dude, only 9/10 Chads have any luck on those sites. Roasties do not read profiles...they look at the face pic, and instantly decide yes or no. They swipe past 95% of guys, because they are KWEENS that 'deserve the best'. Guys do not do this. Studies show a 5/10 guy will message a 5/10 girl. But 5/10 girls will maybe respond to a message from a 8/10 guy. Most replies will be from bots, trannies, or real chicks that try to draw you into a financial scam.

[–] • 0 pt (edited )

You just need to adjust your mindset and expectations a little. There's so many reasons why the apps are not fun for guys that have nothing to do with you. Even for guys who do well on there it sucks ass, dating apps are just not fun except the rare times when they are. Also women hate them too, part of the reason some women act like cunts on there is because they're also miserable dating via apps. But once you get to in-person it's more like just a normal date.

You just need to monitor yourself while you're using it, and pay attention if you get mad or frustrated or start getting expectations about some broad you haven't met yet and check yourself every time. It's no big deal and it's very normal for most interactions to fall flat. You're a man, this does not faze you.

And remember, nobody can get a sense of who someone is over text. That goes for them AND us. They're as frustrated with us as we are with them on there I know this for a fact.