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So i have been dating one for a few months, and holy shit, there are so many fucking issues abounding. i always assumed the stats were exagerating, but no, i think they're dead on the money. i noticed that single moms are very very expensive to cater to. i also noticed the kids are beyond hope, they all have severe agression issues, depression, or some combination of anxiety, depression and anger problems.

one of them almost got expelled for assaulting someone in public. now when they are calm, sure, they are nice, but then we reach the social issues. these kids cant socialize for shit, they are simply incapable of doing so. and the mom makes problems a hundred times worst, for the kids being byproducts of rape and/or assault. originally the mom proclaimed the dad was the one who did the assaulting, but on second notice, im starting to think it was either a group effort or the mom was involved. there are simply too many maneurisms she does which suggest narciccistic and sexually weird behavior. some good examples include taking the bolts off the doors and removing the locks, walking around naked around the house and having loud sex whilst the kids are in the house. apparently this was the guy's fault because he decided to pound her harder knowing the kids were around? i wasn't sure how this excuse is that valid since that's not really a good excuse to me, and it doesn't explain why it happened multiple different times with different guys. all these behaviors come off as completely inappropriate to me, and a blatant invasion of privacy and respect. but the mom seems to have gotten it in to her head that good parenting can only come from shaming and yelling at her kids.

and then there's the drinking. im pretty sure this woman is an alcoholic. every single day since we have started dating, i have yet to find her go one day without downing wine, hard liquor, or whatever the fuck happens to be in the house. and she always complains its something else, but its clear she's hungover the next day, after going on a massive yelling tirade for a few hours the day before.

and yet i would feel guilty for leaving, knowing the kids would be stuck in a super shitty situation ... again. they actually like me, but the mom is resenting me because the kids look up to me instead of her. so the mom practically hates me because she thinks i focus too much on the kids and not her. so i guess her solution is to treat the kids like trash, and somehow expect them to come out alright later?

So i have been dating one for a few months, and holy shit, there are so many fucking issues abounding. i always assumed the stats were exagerating, but no, i think they're dead on the money. i noticed that single moms are very very expensive to cater to. i also noticed the kids are beyond hope, they all have severe agression issues, depression, or some combination of anxiety, depression and anger problems. one of them almost got expelled for assaulting someone in public. now when they are calm, sure, they are nice, but then we reach the social issues. these kids cant socialize for shit, they are simply incapable of doing so. and the mom makes problems a hundred times worst, for the kids being byproducts of rape and/or assault. originally the mom proclaimed the dad was the one who did the assaulting, but on second notice, im starting to think it was either a group effort or the mom was involved. there are simply too many maneurisms she does which suggest narciccistic and sexually weird behavior. some good examples include taking the bolts off the doors and removing the locks, walking around naked around the house and having loud sex whilst the kids are in the house. apparently this was the guy's fault because he decided to pound her harder knowing the kids were around? i wasn't sure how this excuse is that valid since that's not really a good excuse to me, and it doesn't explain why it happened multiple different times with different guys. all these behaviors come off as completely inappropriate to me, and a blatant invasion of privacy and respect. but the mom seems to have gotten it in to her head that good parenting can only come from shaming and yelling at her kids. and then there's the drinking. im pretty sure this woman is an alcoholic. every single day since we have started dating, i have yet to find her go one day without downing wine, hard liquor, or whatever the fuck happens to be in the house. and she always complains its something else, but its clear she's hungover the next day, after going on a massive yelling tirade for a few hours the day before. and yet i would feel guilty for leaving, knowing the kids would be stuck in a super shitty situation ... again. they actually like me, but the mom is resenting me because the kids look up to me instead of her. so the mom practically hates me because she thinks i focus too much on the kids and not her. so i guess her solution is to treat the kids like trash, and somehow expect them to come out alright later?

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[–] • 2 pts

It's weird, because one of the biggest complaints she has is I should pay more taxes because I make too much money in comparison to her. Assuming I get taxed more, she's essentially championing kneecapping her own purchasing power by destitution through taxing me. Either this person is completely clueless about finance, or extremely selfish or both.

[–] • 5 pts

run away faster

[–] • 1 pt

Part of me feels I can change this person for the better, but its looking like the hill is exponential and not linear

[–] • 3 pts

The situation is Sisyphean. The neurosis becomes symbiotic past a certain point; may be the best thing to jump ship.

[–] • 2 pts

Personal opinion, clearly

I do not believe that a person can be "changed" substantially once they are 20 year old

Slight changes, yes, of course, major... no

If she is attached to money, run, you will be sucked dry by what is effectively a high level prostitute

[–] • 0 pt

You can't. You can only help someone who is trying to change themselves.

[–] • 0 pt

You won't change her, she'll change you or stop respecting you.

[–] • 0 pt

Captain Saveaho, stop. Get some help. Get away from that dumpster 🔥. If she can't change habits for her kids, what chance do you have if you are the dick of the month?

[–] • 0 pt

Part of me feels I can change this person for the better,

Seek help for your delusions.

[–] • 0 pt

It's counter intuitive but single moms will have this lingering resentment towards you if you're doing well ie. not suffering the same shitty existence that she is. I think it's a part jealousy and a part misplaced anger over the bad choices that she's made. Anyhow that shit doesn't go away; she will always resent you to some degree and it will manifest itself in the weirdest ways so you never see it coming. Get out. Now.

[–] • 1 pt

The thing is I have also suffered trauma in my life. Heck, if you look EVERYONE has suffered in some way be it the loss of a parent, spouse, dog, whatever. To seclude to just one person is incredibly selfish to me

[–] • 0 pt

"To seclude to just one person is incredibly selfish to me" What you're trying to say here is not clear to me. Can you re-phrase it?

I'm not saying to never have compassion but at some point it's starts becoming passivity or weakness. A good relationship is always 1 + 1 = 3. If you are not better off together than you would be by yourself then you are in the relationship for the wrong reasons.