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So i have been dating one for a few months, and holy shit, there are so many fucking issues abounding. i always assumed the stats were exagerating, but no, i think they're dead on the money. i noticed that single moms are very very expensive to cater to. i also noticed the kids are beyond hope, they all have severe agression issues, depression, or some combination of anxiety, depression and anger problems.

one of them almost got expelled for assaulting someone in public. now when they are calm, sure, they are nice, but then we reach the social issues. these kids cant socialize for shit, they are simply incapable of doing so. and the mom makes problems a hundred times worst, for the kids being byproducts of rape and/or assault. originally the mom proclaimed the dad was the one who did the assaulting, but on second notice, im starting to think it was either a group effort or the mom was involved. there are simply too many maneurisms she does which suggest narciccistic and sexually weird behavior. some good examples include taking the bolts off the doors and removing the locks, walking around naked around the house and having loud sex whilst the kids are in the house. apparently this was the guy's fault because he decided to pound her harder knowing the kids were around? i wasn't sure how this excuse is that valid since that's not really a good excuse to me, and it doesn't explain why it happened multiple different times with different guys. all these behaviors come off as completely inappropriate to me, and a blatant invasion of privacy and respect. but the mom seems to have gotten it in to her head that good parenting can only come from shaming and yelling at her kids.

and then there's the drinking. im pretty sure this woman is an alcoholic. every single day since we have started dating, i have yet to find her go one day without downing wine, hard liquor, or whatever the fuck happens to be in the house. and she always complains its something else, but its clear she's hungover the next day, after going on a massive yelling tirade for a few hours the day before.

and yet i would feel guilty for leaving, knowing the kids would be stuck in a super shitty situation ... again. they actually like me, but the mom is resenting me because the kids look up to me instead of her. so the mom practically hates me because she thinks i focus too much on the kids and not her. so i guess her solution is to treat the kids like trash, and somehow expect them to come out alright later?

So i have been dating one for a few months, and holy shit, there are so many fucking issues abounding. i always assumed the stats were exagerating, but no, i think they're dead on the money. i noticed that single moms are very very expensive to cater to. i also noticed the kids are beyond hope, they all have severe agression issues, depression, or some combination of anxiety, depression and anger problems. one of them almost got expelled for assaulting someone in public. now when they are calm, sure, they are nice, but then we reach the social issues. these kids cant socialize for shit, they are simply incapable of doing so. and the mom makes problems a hundred times worst, for the kids being byproducts of rape and/or assault. originally the mom proclaimed the dad was the one who did the assaulting, but on second notice, im starting to think it was either a group effort or the mom was involved. there are simply too many maneurisms she does which suggest narciccistic and sexually weird behavior. some good examples include taking the bolts off the doors and removing the locks, walking around naked around the house and having loud sex whilst the kids are in the house. apparently this was the guy's fault because he decided to pound her harder knowing the kids were around? i wasn't sure how this excuse is that valid since that's not really a good excuse to me, and it doesn't explain why it happened multiple different times with different guys. all these behaviors come off as completely inappropriate to me, and a blatant invasion of privacy and respect. but the mom seems to have gotten it in to her head that good parenting can only come from shaming and yelling at her kids. and then there's the drinking. im pretty sure this woman is an alcoholic. every single day since we have started dating, i have yet to find her go one day without downing wine, hard liquor, or whatever the fuck happens to be in the house. and she always complains its something else, but its clear she's hungover the next day, after going on a massive yelling tirade for a few hours the day before. and yet i would feel guilty for leaving, knowing the kids would be stuck in a super shitty situation ... again. they actually like me, but the mom is resenting me because the kids look up to me instead of her. so the mom practically hates me because she thinks i focus too much on the kids and not her. so i guess her solution is to treat the kids like trash, and somehow expect them to come out alright later?

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[–] • 6 pts

Run, don’t walk, away.

[–] • 2 pts

It's weird, because one of the biggest complaints she has is I should pay more taxes because I make too much money in comparison to her. Assuming I get taxed more, she's essentially championing kneecapping her own purchasing power by destitution through taxing me. Either this person is completely clueless about finance, or extremely selfish or both.

[–] • 5 pts

run away faster

[–] • 1 pt

Part of me feels I can change this person for the better, but its looking like the hill is exponential and not linear

[–] • 0 pt

It's counter intuitive but single moms will have this lingering resentment towards you if you're doing well ie. not suffering the same shitty existence that she is. I think it's a part jealousy and a part misplaced anger over the bad choices that she's made. Anyhow that shit doesn't go away; she will always resent you to some degree and it will manifest itself in the weirdest ways so you never see it coming. Get out. Now.

[–] • 1 pt

The thing is I have also suffered trauma in my life. Heck, if you look EVERYONE has suffered in some way be it the loss of a parent, spouse, dog, whatever. To seclude to just one person is incredibly selfish to me

[–] • 0 pt

Yes this.

Dont look back just go.

[–] • 0 pt

Im currently trying to come to terms to how manipulative this woman is. Her dad was apparently some kind of manipulator too, so it's not surprising his worst traits would be inherited by the daughter. At this point, this woman says she has never asked me for anything, and that she's a "cheap" person, and that any money I give is at my volition. Whilst true I see a very deep pattern of narciccism that I hadn't noticed before. If I spent 500$ on the woman she's happy, but if for every dollar I spend on her, I spend even a 10th of that on her kids, she constantly hammers on that I care more about the kids than her. I can see it for what it is, she's trying toPavlov condition me to treat her own kids like shit, so she can complain that her kids have always been treated like shit. Instead of fixing any problems, she wants to fuel the very problems she complains about, because if the problems go away, she has nothing to bitch about. This is the only reason I can think of why someone who just spend 700$ on something, would be upset her own daughter gets a 200$ item, and completely ignore the very purchase they just received 30 minutes prior.

[–] • 0 pt

Run away and process any emotions later but just go immediately.

[–] • 3 pts

I agree with the others. Run.

I don't mean that you should be cold and selfish, but if she drains your soul then you will be able to help no one, then you'd need to help them plus yourself.

Sometimes when you are with a woman like that your mind can get distorted. Even very bad women can make some men feel strong empathy with them, i.e. some form of manipulation (it may even be unconscious, some ancient female genetic magic).

I see some signs in your text indicating this, that you may not think fully straight right now. I don't mean to be offensive, been in similar situation sort of. Odds are that if you go back and read your post 1-2 month forward in time you may see those signs yourself.

[–] • 1 pt

I don't want to just dump them out either, that would seem unfair and cruel. However, I have noticed that this woman has kind of expected me to be her sugar daddy, all the whilst claiming she never takes anything from me. She does claim she is Jewish by lineage, so her behavior coming from Jewish tricks makes complete sense. She ignores any time anyone helps her, the massive martyr complex, neurotic/manic behavior, requiring everyone to sit down and shut up and bend to her will. From a Jew perspective, this makes sense. From a Goy perspective, it seems to be a deeper understanding of yet more deceptive JEwish behavior. Let's be honest, this woman will sleep with someone else immediately as soon as she doesn't get her way

[–] • 1 pt

I don't want to just dump them out either, that would seem unfair and cruel.

Them. Based on what you write I think there is no reason to concern yourself with the woman. See seems to be a nasty, manipulative devil. She seems to one of the people least worthy of getting help. She will never change.

Elvis Presley - Devil in Disguise:

You fooled me with your kisses You cheated and you schemed Heaven knows how you lied to me You're not the way you seemed

You look like an angel Walk like an angel Talk like an angel But I got wise

You're the devil in disguise Oh yes you are The devil in disguise

[–] • 2 pts

Definitely run. She's a promiscuous drunk and you can't fix her.

[–] • 2 pts

Listen to someone who's been there done that. Get the fuck out NOW!!! The kids a probably too far gone to save and It's not your problem. She will devour you!

[–] • 0 pt

But the kids are white, I feel like we need to at least give it a shot to help them. If they were niggers, who gives a shit. Ironically yesterday I got yelled at for conspiring against the mom by siding with the kids. On second though, you may be right, the kids may be too far gone at this point to be salvaged

[–] • 0 pt

I'm speaking from experience here. Get out! It is only a matter of time before they are ALL against you. There is no way you will come out ahead. Cut your losses and GTFO!

[–] • 0 pt

I'd say split, and maybe try to keep contact with the kid

[–] • 0 pt

It's just sad, these kids are being destroy mentally and physically by their mom, it just makes my heart ache. And any positive influence will quickly leave from all the dysfunction and chaos, but the chaos is coming from the mom, not the kids. Reminds me how my mom would gaslight me to think im the problem, when she was the one damaging and destroying reputations for her own selfish reasons

[–] • 0 pt

I don't know, that's weird behavior. I think staying with the woman for the kids is a huge mistake. My stepdad did that and he was just miserable and then very regretful.