So i have been dating one for a few months, and holy shit, there are so many fucking issues abounding. i always assumed the stats were exagerating, but no, i think they're dead on the money. i noticed that single moms are very very expensive to cater to. i also noticed the kids are beyond hope, they all have severe agression issues, depression, or some combination of anxiety, depression and anger problems.
one of them almost got expelled for assaulting someone in public. now when they are calm, sure, they are nice, but then we reach the social issues. these kids cant socialize for shit, they are simply incapable of doing so. and the mom makes problems a hundred times worst, for the kids being byproducts of rape and/or assault. originally the mom proclaimed the dad was the one who did the assaulting, but on second notice, im starting to think it was either a group effort or the mom was involved. there are simply too many maneurisms she does which suggest narciccistic and sexually weird behavior. some good examples include taking the bolts off the doors and removing the locks, walking around naked around the house and having loud sex whilst the kids are in the house. apparently this was the guy's fault because he decided to pound her harder knowing the kids were around? i wasn't sure how this excuse is that valid since that's not really a good excuse to me, and it doesn't explain why it happened multiple different times with different guys. all these behaviors come off as completely inappropriate to me, and a blatant invasion of privacy and respect. but the mom seems to have gotten it in to her head that good parenting can only come from shaming and yelling at her kids.
and then there's the drinking. im pretty sure this woman is an alcoholic. every single day since we have started dating, i have yet to find her go one day without downing wine, hard liquor, or whatever the fuck happens to be in the house. and she always complains its something else, but its clear she's hungover the next day, after going on a massive yelling tirade for a few hours the day before.
and yet i would feel guilty for leaving, knowing the kids would be stuck in a super shitty situation ... again. they actually like me, but the mom is resenting me because the kids look up to me instead of her. so the mom practically hates me because she thinks i focus too much on the kids and not her. so i guess her solution is to treat the kids like trash, and somehow expect them to come out alright later?
So i have been dating one for a few months, and holy shit, there are so many fucking issues abounding. i always assumed the stats were exagerating, but no, i think they're dead on the money. i noticed that single moms are very very expensive to cater to. i also noticed the kids are beyond hope, they all have severe agression issues, depression, or some combination of anxiety, depression and anger problems.
one of them almost got expelled for assaulting someone in public. now when they are calm, sure, they are nice, but then we reach the social issues. these kids cant socialize for shit, they are simply incapable of doing so. and the mom makes problems a hundred times worst, for the kids being byproducts of rape and/or assault. originally the mom proclaimed the dad was the one who did the assaulting, but on second notice, im starting to think it was either a group effort or the mom was involved. there are simply too many maneurisms she does which suggest narciccistic and sexually weird behavior. some good examples include taking the bolts off the doors and removing the locks, walking around naked around the house and having loud sex whilst the kids are in the house. apparently this was the guy's fault because he decided to pound her harder knowing the kids were around? i wasn't sure how this excuse is that valid since that's not really a good excuse to me, and it doesn't explain why it happened multiple different times with different guys. all these behaviors come off as completely inappropriate to me, and a blatant invasion of privacy and respect. but the mom seems to have gotten it in to her head that good parenting can only come from shaming and yelling at her kids.
and then there's the drinking. im pretty sure this woman is an alcoholic. every single day since we have started dating, i have yet to find her go one day without downing wine, hard liquor, or whatever the fuck happens to be in the house. and she always complains its something else, but its clear she's hungover the next day, after going on a massive yelling tirade for a few hours the day before.
and yet i would feel guilty for leaving, knowing the kids would be stuck in a super shitty situation ... again. they actually like me, but the mom is resenting me because the kids look up to me instead of her. so the mom practically hates me because she thinks i focus too much on the kids and not her. so i guess her solution is to treat the kids like trash, and somehow expect them to come out alright later?
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