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A question i ponder in today's society. There's always been this idea you have to date someone for a decade, throw them through fire, etc before you can officially marry them. Or you need to wait it out to see what happens, in a weird quest of time vs the relationship. Whilst I can understand using some time to date and be in a relationship to test them out as a partner, the marriage part has always been confusing to me. I've never attributed any time schedule to a relationship before, but a lot of people look at you funny if you say you were married after 9 months of dating. What makes this an interesting phenomena, is that for the majority of the world's existence, most people were together for a few months before getting married.

This is yet another attack on white people getting married and having kids by forcing artificial constraints and arbitrary guidelines on what is the (((new))) normal. Who is to say that a relationship has to meet certain guidelines except for no other reason but to sow confusion between the sexes?

A question i ponder in today's society. There's always been this idea you have to date someone for a decade, throw them through fire, etc before you can officially marry them. Or you need to wait it out to see what happens, in a weird quest of time vs the relationship. Whilst I can understand using some time to date and be in a relationship to test them out as a partner, the marriage part has always been confusing to me. I've never attributed any time schedule to a relationship before, but a lot of people look at you funny if you say you were married after 9 months of dating. What makes this an interesting phenomena, is that for the majority of the world's existence, most people were together for a few months before getting married. This is yet another attack on white people getting married and having kids by forcing artificial constraints and arbitrary guidelines on what is the (((new))) normal. Who is to say that a relationship has to meet certain guidelines except for no other reason but to sow confusion between the sexes?

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[–] • 5 pts

Thus the difference between courting and dating. Dating has longer periods because basically only two inexperienced people are choosing. Two people who generally know nothing of life, doublely so for women, are feeling things out. To compensate, longer durations became the norm, which also became an excuse to fuck and justify moral decline.

Courtship is the traditional alternative. This is really about allowing the family to learn about the prospect while supervised dating (honoring women and their virginity). Courtships can be months to years, depending on the courter. If the courter is young and financially unprepared, a longer duration exists so he can get everything ready to take on a wife. This in turn keeps the door open for better prospects. If he's older, stable, an open book, and passes the family's smell test, courtship can be months. This is why marriage of 16 year olds to late twenty or so wasn't uncommon. This is the purpose of a father's blessing.

A father giving blessing without a courtship is simply ritualistic rubber stamping. Father's are only expected to pay when he gives his blessing (which is generally family consensus) with a courtship.

[–] • 3 pts

Don't listen to anything modern society has to say about it, it's totally backwards. Courtship was the norm while parents were in the room. Look at that TV show The Beverly Hillbillies, granny stood watch with a shotgun while the kids sat in the parlor on the couch.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

Dating a woman older than 22 is the worst thing a man can do. Her smv peaks at 22. After that she becomes a man hating feminist. Up to the age of 22 she can still choose the family path, fulfill her role as a woman and live a happy life, age with dignity raise her children well and take care of her man. Feminism destroys this dream. Now we have 60+ year old cat ladies who live alone and hate their lives, the only joy they have is to mentor young women down their same demented path. Two things that look terrible on a woman: tattoos and a career.

[–] • 2 pts (edited )

Single western women over 22 are effectively worthless. They value themselves too highly due to a steady diet of garbage media and/or western “higher education.” Most gave up their virginities during their college years. They want “equality” and “independence” with no expectation of submitting to a man, ever.

[–] • 1 pt

I actually think it's a huge mistake the way the right wing and conservatives seem to almost want to push sex beyond years of best procreation in their effort to avoid perception of pedophilia.

The fact is that most of our ancestors were getting women pregnant when they were what 16 or 17 and they had lots of babies because they had a lot of time to do it.

We need to get back to having lots of babies. And what the magic number is I don't know but I know in many states with permission of parents it was lower than 18.

But just be careful we don't throw the baby out with the bath water when we're out there pushing against this pedophilia because we're not trying to get women to only get pregnant when they're 25 or 30. Because frankly that's too late to make a difference.

Our country is dying because we're not having enough kids. Our culture is dying because our culture is not having enough kids.

We need to do whatever we can to get more young kids locked together in a room having sex so they have babies.

Remember sex is not bad. The mental manipulation of minors to purely serve as basically sex slaves for older losers is what's bad about pedophilia.

It's not that sex is bad. It's not that having babies is bad.

So don't get mixed up in all this and inadvertently push procreation even further and further back than it already is.

We need to be encouraging our daughters to go upstairs with the boy down the street and have sex and have babies.

It used to be the universal notion. It wasn't weird. Parents wanted their kids to have grandkids as fast as possible. We better get back to it.

[–] • 0 pt

Control freaks gonna' control, if you let them...

[–] • 0 pt

If a couple isn't at least working toward marriage (or some sort of long-term commitment, anyway) a year into dating, what are they wasting their time for?