Welcome • User Guide
ToS • Privacy • Canary
Donate • Bugs • License

©2025 Poal.co

1.2K

She's very confusing at times, and it makes no sense. It's gotten so cryptic at times, ive decided to wait it out and see how she reacts next month. Sometimes she's very adamant she wants to get married, and then other times she says she wants to wait a year. Yet other times she wants to get married today, and then other times she feels like she doubts whether she wants to get married as a concept vs not getting married. I've had a lot of conflicting answers where at this point, i have no clue what im supposed to make out of it.

I know that a lot of the issues is because her parents and siblings feed her mind poison which causes a lot of conflicting views to be presented at the same time, but at the same time, this woman cant live off only what her parents say. She's even mentioned as such that she hates it, but now it's still very confusing. I don't want to ask the parents during the December season since the holidays are coming up, so i was thinking asking towards January or February instead

She's very confusing at times, and it makes no sense. It's gotten so cryptic at times, ive decided to wait it out and see how she reacts next month. Sometimes she's very adamant she wants to get married, and then other times she says she wants to wait a year. Yet other times she wants to get married today, and then other times she feels like she doubts whether she wants to get married as a concept vs not getting married. I've had a lot of conflicting answers where at this point, i have no clue what im supposed to make out of it. I know that a lot of the issues is because her parents and siblings feed her mind poison which causes a lot of conflicting views to be presented at the same time, but at the same time, this woman cant live off only what her parents say. She's even mentioned as such that she hates it, but now it's still very confusing. I don't want to ask the parents during the December season since the holidays are coming up, so i was thinking asking towards January or February instead

(post is archived)

You are currently inside a comment thread.
Click here to see all the comments (25).
[–] • 1 pt

Women are wishy-washy. That's not the problem. The real problem here is the part about the family feeding her mind poison. You not only have to be firm with her about what you two are Going to do, you also have to deal with her family. For the most part, when you get married you marry the whole family! They are not going to magically disappear or stop feeding her shit just because you got married. My stupid father-in-law thought he would be brilliant and start sharpening his knife when I came over courting. When he got done with his knife I whipped out mine and borrowed his sharpening stone! LOL. When her mom started bitching at me I would just laugh at her and say something like, "bless your heart". LOLOL!!! But then I would just go on about my business like she didn't even matter. Her sisters were the Worst! She has one that will still try, every so often but, to drive a wedge between us. It took many years of putting up with their crap before she finally came around and settled down. In that time all the craziness definitely had negative effects on our children! In my case it was Not worth it! If I had to do it over again, knowing what I know now, it would be a Hard Pass! I have one child that is a total loss! I don't believe that one will Ever be okay! It Can be done. But it may come at a very high price! Good Luck!

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

For the most part, when you get married you marry the whole family!

Not in my case, my family is dead to me after all the crap they tried pulling on me. I dont even get so much as a phone call anymore from anyone on my side except maybe one of my siblings.

Her sisters were the Worst! She has one that will still try, every so often but, to drive a wedge between us.

Exact problem im dealing with, her sister is both single and somewhat older, and keeps feeding her volcel type crap you'd find on 4chan. This has caused a lot of issues, as she would rather listen to her family than what she wants, leading to some very annoying situations and problems.

It Can be done. But it may come at a very high price!

Sure it can, it just depends how much i want to put up with. In this case, i think a healthy amount of distance for her would be a good thing, but it could also lead to a heavy amount of resentment from being taken away from the viper's den