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She's very confusing at times, and it makes no sense. It's gotten so cryptic at times, ive decided to wait it out and see how she reacts next month. Sometimes she's very adamant she wants to get married, and then other times she says she wants to wait a year. Yet other times she wants to get married today, and then other times she feels like she doubts whether she wants to get married as a concept vs not getting married. I've had a lot of conflicting answers where at this point, i have no clue what im supposed to make out of it.

I know that a lot of the issues is because her parents and siblings feed her mind poison which causes a lot of conflicting views to be presented at the same time, but at the same time, this woman cant live off only what her parents say. She's even mentioned as such that she hates it, but now it's still very confusing. I don't want to ask the parents during the December season since the holidays are coming up, so i was thinking asking towards January or February instead

She's very confusing at times, and it makes no sense. It's gotten so cryptic at times, ive decided to wait it out and see how she reacts next month. Sometimes she's very adamant she wants to get married, and then other times she says she wants to wait a year. Yet other times she wants to get married today, and then other times she feels like she doubts whether she wants to get married as a concept vs not getting married. I've had a lot of conflicting answers where at this point, i have no clue what im supposed to make out of it. I know that a lot of the issues is because her parents and siblings feed her mind poison which causes a lot of conflicting views to be presented at the same time, but at the same time, this woman cant live off only what her parents say. She's even mentioned as such that she hates it, but now it's still very confusing. I don't want to ask the parents during the December season since the holidays are coming up, so i was thinking asking towards January or February instead

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It's hard to say for sure from only knowing you and the situation from those 2 paragraphs, but my guess is that primarily 2 things are going on here:

  1. Women are genetically wired to defer to the guy. Therefore an non-ignorable part of herself wants you to make the decision and she'll just go along with it.

  2. Women have been so fucked up by feminism and all the other BS that's taught them to be strong and independent that she also wants/needs to be 100% in charge and in control.

The conflict between these 2 factors is, in effect, making her nuts. And you're along for the ride.

What's the solution? Well for her I have no idea because I don't know her. For you I think you have to decide whether you are prepared to continue to play a passive role and go along with whatever she eventually 'decides' to do, and when. Or instead do you take control of the situation and either 1. bail, or 2. try to set her straight. Setting her straight would be the best for everyone -- ie. her, you, and society at large -- but it's not your job to fix crazy. Is she crazy or is she just a little confused? Your call, man.

Good luck. You're gonna need it.