As you know, in the past year I took a couple of kids under my wing - one more so than the other. The youngest is still very much a mama's boy, but the eldest is pretty much attached at my hip. She and I spent an insane amount of time together.
One of the things that brings me the most joy is when she asks questions. She has a thirst for knowledge and she's still very much just a kid. It's awesome when you can see them learn something - when you can see that moment when they actually do understand the subject matter. It's great if you can get them to reason their way to the correct answer, such as by asking questions like, "Well, how you think it works?"
It's just so awesome seeing empty heads being filled with knowledge and, hopefully, some insight about where the knowledge applies. We only get so many chances to right the wrongs we ourselves made - and one of those chances is in influencing the next generation of young people and teaching them.
I do recall that, and as I’ve said in the past i think you are doing something good. I’m not so much as trying to correct the mistakes I made, god knows my six year old is going to make all the same ones I did, she seems to always have to learn the hard way just like dear old dad. I know this will cause her a lot of pain in her life so I do hope she grows out of it but I don’t think she will. My point being I’m not trying to correct my mistakes I just want my kids to know they are loved and cared for, That would be the biggest mistake I’d like to correct but that one I don’t really consider my mistake.
If your offline persona is anything like your online persona, I'm pretty damned sure your kids will know full well that they're loved and loved a great deal.
Another thing to remember, seeing as your eldest is going to do things the hard way, is that kids are remarkably resilient. They can go through some pretty tough places and come out better on the other side. Hell, I was a mess and my own kids grew up to be happy, healthy, and productive. I can't really ask for more - and I absolutely didn't do the best job raising them.
My offline persona and my online persona are almost identical truth be told, most of the time I’m just me, I don’t have much to hide.
She is resilient, she has fallen down the stairs off the trampoline, off jungle gyms and all manner of other things, most times she is up and running like nothing happened in seconds, she is tough. Except when she is tired.
I can only hope they grow up happy and healthy and productive, I’ll try my best and I hope not to fail them too bad.
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