I do recall that, and as I’ve said in the past i think you are doing something good. I’m not so much as trying to correct the mistakes I made, god knows my six year old is going to make all the same ones I did, she seems to always have to learn the hard way just like dear old dad. I know this will cause her a lot of pain in her life so I do hope she grows out of it but I don’t think she will. My point being I’m not trying to correct my mistakes I just want my kids to know they are loved and cared for, That would be the biggest mistake I’d like to correct but that one I don’t really consider my mistake.
If your offline persona is anything like your online persona, I'm pretty damned sure your kids will know full well that they're loved and loved a great deal.
Another thing to remember, seeing as your eldest is going to do things the hard way, is that kids are remarkably resilient. They can go through some pretty tough places and come out better on the other side. Hell, I was a mess and my own kids grew up to be happy, healthy, and productive. I can't really ask for more - and I absolutely didn't do the best job raising them.
My offline persona and my online persona are almost identical truth be told, most of the time I’m just me, I don’t have much to hide.
She is resilient, she has fallen down the stairs off the trampoline, off jungle gyms and all manner of other things, most times she is up and running like nothing happened in seconds, she is tough. Except when she is tired.
I can only hope they grow up happy and healthy and productive, I’ll try my best and I hope not to fail them too bad.
You can only do your best and, another important thing that I see people not knowing, you're not always to blame for the mistakes your children make. You can do everything "right" and still have your kids turn out to be less than excellent.
I've known some folks who were great parents and their kids are monsters, in prison, or have been nothing but problems. I've known some absolutely shitty parents (I mean worse than even I was) and their kids are happy, health, productive, educated, and really good people. Some of them, I like better than I like their parents!
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