Women used that "friends" bullshit when I was dating back in my 20s. I'm much older now, but still don't completely understand it. Do they legit think that's something we'd want? Do they seriously think that the money, time, energy spent is because we like to hear stories about their makeup, or what they read in cosmo, or what they're doing with their girlfriends? I seriously don't understand it. I'm not saying that men and women can't be friends, but the moons seriously need to align for that shit to happen.
I think you could be friends with a woman in a very different context, e.g. they have the same hobby and you hang out at some group of other people with the same hobby, or she is with other friends who you get together with as a group regularly, where it's never one-on-one.
And then you fuck them. Wrong bud.
I can think of a few women who can be "friends" with men. They tend to outliers who accomplish things. The "I just published my second book" or "look at this new bruise I got at my judo class last week". They're quite rare, because most female interests are actively avoided by men. No, he doesn't want to hear about Becky slighting you by sitting at a different lunch table at work, or what nonsense you watched on reality tv, or how you feel crystals will align your chakras. He actually suspects you're retarded when you bring those up. For much the same reason you suspect he ate paint chips if he tries to tell you about the "totally sweet pentakill" you got on Call of Duty last night.
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