I'm awful at being neutral like @starjello

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How do you go back and just have a virtual beer with someone you've wronged?

How do you like multiple groups of folks who are at each other's throats about something that seems distant, on which they both implicitly want you to pick a side, but you'd have that virtual beer with either of them?

I'm good at doing this in real life, I swear.

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How do you go back and just have a virtual beer with someone you've wronged? How do you like multiple groups of folks who are at each other's throats about something that seems distant, on which they both implicitly want you to pick a side, but you'd have that virtual beer with either of them? I'm good at doing this in real life, I swear. > *guts continue spilling*

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Be explicit that you would rather not pick a side. If they really like you, they won't make you a casualty in their own conflict.

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So you risk taking the double-negative (you're seen by each as endorsing the perceived evil of their foe, by not siding with them)?

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They need to settle their conflicts between themselves like adults. You don't have anything to do with it. You're not endorsing anything, just continuing to be friends.

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It's hard to convey that you value them as people/users, without endorsing their opinions/actions on/against each other.

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How do you go back and just have a virtual beer with someone you've wronged?

It honestly depends on the depth of the wrong in question. All you can do is apologize and decide how to change, accepting whatever answer may come, even if it's rejection.

How do you like multiple groups of folks who are at each other's throats about something that seems distant, on which they both implicitly want you to pick a side, but you'd have that virtual beer with either of them?

Being able to remain friends with either side would be ideal, but that distance can be a matter of perspective. Sometimes neutrality is genuinely impossible and would actually be enabling. How they fight is just as important as what the fight is over. There rarely is an easy answer to this. You'll rarely have enough information and circumstance can force you into making a decision. Sometimes the only thing we can do is make a decision we won't regret.