>How do you go back and just have a virtual beer with someone you've wronged? It honestly depends on the depth of the wrong in question. All you can do is apologize and decide how to change, accepting whatever answer may come, even if it's rejection. >How do you like multiple groups of folks who are at each other's throats about something that seems distant, on which they both implicitly want you to pick a side, but you'd have that virtual beer with either of them? Being able to remain friends with either side would be ideal, but that distance can be a matter of perspective. Sometimes neutrality is genuinely impossible and would actually be enabling. How they fight is just as important as what the fight is over. There rarely is an easy answer to this. You'll rarely have enough information and circumstance can force you into making a decision. Sometimes the only thing we can do is make a decision we won't regret.