This will probably be unpopular but, actually, I'm ok with this one. Living together tells you a lot about a person and if you can be around them (or they around you). I know that you are supposed to adapt to things and I have but I have read plenty of people ending up living with someone that was horrendous.
If it is something you want, have separate rooms. Do not "do the things" that is perfectly reasonable, respectable. In my case, I thought my wife's oddities were amusing apparently she felt the same about mine, others might find them irritating. That is for us though. She "puts up" with me more than I do her.
Many people may not agree with this but I do think living together lets you see someone more clearly. She saw me for who I am and I saw her for who she is.
This life is for you to live. Do your best.
I know you might not like this from what I posted before but such is life. You do what you think is right for you. Any suggestions I give are just what I have seen in life and maybe it helps somehow.
Oh I get it. Logic is sound. I wish I could do so with a clean conscience, but it doesn't sit right and I would regret it long-term.
As said, however, going on trips or spending weekends at each other's places is much more palatable.
Put it this way - looking out for her reputation is a means of loving them, even if we are holding up a standard long discarded. If we want the old ways back we must model them.
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