Eloping is a big middle finger to everyone in your orbit. Yes, your marriage is primarily about what you want, but it's not exclusively about what you want. Refusing to share this special event in your life won't endear you to any friends or grow family relationships, and you end up looking like a selfish douche.

Even if you can only afford to get married in the park and rent the VFW for your reception, other people in your life are worth considering for the occasion.

Once upon a time, marriage was a sacred ceremony that bonded two people for life. Families were merged, lives combined, families raised. But now that marriage is a disposable, and in the case of women, an income investment, getting eloped isn't the stigma it was. So, yeah, I can see why it seems like there isn't a negative aspect to it. But there should be.

covid pretty much finished off my relationships with my shitlib family and communist childhood friends. we could spend 100K on the wedding when we could elope and nobody would tell the difference.

My understanding was always that it was used as a way to express dissatisfaction/anger at not being involved/invited to the wedding.

Historically in western media it's been portrayed as a double edged sword, however the stories leaned towards true love and doing what you need to regardless of repercussions. I'm not opposed to the notion of true love but I'd argue people that bear some responsibility for others should not throw those away that depend on em and do what they want. Obv circumstances vary.

If people want to get married by a justice of the peace in a courthouse instead of making it a huge event for other people you have no right to be mad, they didn't need to consult you, people crying about it are selfish maybe their mothers have some right to be selfish but.

Grandmas and mothers bitched loudly about it and created a negative perception.