"Widow" trumps "single mother," in the modern discourse.

If you were married and your children were born to your now-passed husband, you are a widow, and that is absolutely not a problem to anyone who espouses a return to classic Europan culture.

If your child was had out of wedlock? Then we don't give two shits, you get what's coming to you, and you are good for nothing but a pump-and-dump, good luck on the carousel while it lasts.

That is why the distinction exists, and why it matters.

You are not a single mother. You are a grieving widow. These are vastly different.

Historically, widows have been honored and taken care of by society. You weren't a disgusting slut who let some scumbag conceive a bastard in you. You are an honorable woman who swore a vow to be loyal to the man who would become the father of your children. Tragedy struck you, nobody is immune from this, and life certainly isn't fair.

It has not even been a year since your loss. You are in great pain and turmoil still, I am sure. You must grieve. We are here for you on poal when you want to talk. You are not the first woman this has happened to. You said your child "also lost his mother"; I understand you are feeling very down on yourself in general. This will pass with time- please don't hate me for the cliche, but time really is the only thing that will help.

Whenever you are really struggling, or feel that the absence of your husband is unbearable, I want you to remind yourself: YOU STILL HAVE YOUR HUSBAND. Look down. See that little fella running around? That's a part of him. That boy is his legacy, and he chose you as his wife because he believed in you. He believed that if something horrible like this were to happen, that his children would be in your good hands. You cannot be his father, but you will always be his mother, and he will always be the greatest creation that you and your husband every graced this earth with.

Please reach out whenever you feel the need to. Some of us cynics actually do care.

Don't be an idiot. You are one of the other. You can't expect men to treat someone who calls herself a "single mom" with respect. Single moms are dirty sluts. Widows are not. They are two completely different things. If you call yourself a "single mom" you are also dishonoring your late husband and your children. Stop bringing dishonor upon your family, and call yourself what you are: a widow.

You were a wife and mother before, being a wife is the only one of those that changed. So chosing to identify as a single mom can look like your 1st priority is to be seen as a victim, it makes it about you. When 99x out of 100 we know ppl assume it must imply some deadbeat dad somewhere. Identifying as a widow acknowledges/honours your husband in a more selfless way imo. Which brings honour to you and your kids.

As far as Voat goes, can’t say I seen anyone bragging about wanting to shag single moms other then the “show me your tits” degenerates that wouldn’t survive a month in a Strong Man, honour culture, but knowing you survived in a place that rough is a good sign or your mental strength imo.

You're widowed. You didn't make stupid choices, life just happens. Yes, jerks will try to just "get into your pants" or skirt as the case may be.

To properly raise kids, you really need a male role model. Problem, how to pick the right one. First off, make friends. Ask for small favors just to see the reaction. Safe favors: Ask a friendly guy who is self sufficient to go pick up supplies because you can't leave your kids alone. Give him cash and see how honest he is. If he brings back change to the penny and gives you a receipt to prove he spent exactly what you gave him and didn't take anything for himself is a test of his honesty.

Another good test is if he will happily fix something around the house that's broken. Believe me, this is a guy's job. If he really likes you, he will do this stuff for free.